Are the seeds present in okra the same required for planting? If so, what is the method for sowing them? Do they need to dry before sowing?
Yes, you can grow these seeds. You can allow them to dry out, if desired, or sow them right away. This article will help with growing okra: https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/planting-okra.htm
This is the first year I have grown Okra in my garden since I was a child and I can't remember how to know when it is ready to harvest.
This article should help: https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/harvest-okra.htm
My husband sprayed the okra plants with Ortho Bug-B-Gone Max two days ago. Can you ever eat the new okra coming off the plants?
Generally, most chemicals in pesticides and weed killers will dissipate after a couple good rainfalls or waterings. As a precaution, I would suggest washing the veggies thoroughly prior to eating them. In the future, you may want to use neem oil for treating insect pests in the veggie garden. It is safe to use and organic.
This is the first year I have planted okra. I picked one when it was a purple red color. Should I pick the okra when it is purple or green?
Here is an article that you may find helpful: https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/harvest-okra.htm
Better to pick too early than too late. The fruit becomes kind of "woody" if left too long. Also, from my experience, the fruit does not ripen all at once. Each plant will have 1-3 pods ready for picking each doy or so. I do not recall the variety I used to plant but two to three inches is a good size; 4 inches max. longer than that and they get tough. Love that fried okra!
We are wondering what would stop or hamper okra pods from growing. We have tall, green, large leaves on the plants. They are getting sunshine and enough water. The pods grow very slow, not like they are supposed to. We grew them last year and they did fine, but this year they're hardly growing.
Too much nitrogen fertilizer will prevent pods from setting and focuses more on producing foliage growth. Heat can also be a factor, making pollination more difficult. This can usually be remedied by adding more phosphorus to the soil, like bone meal, to offset the excess nitrogen and encourage more flower/pod growth.
I have sown some seeds in a pot and now I have all the little ones up. My question is do I have to transplant the ladies finger plants in different pots or will it be ok for them to grow in the same pot? The space is enough, or do they require more space? What about the sunlight? How many time do I water the plants - here the temp is around 40+ in Doha.
I have found it easiest to sow 3-4 seed in each 4'' pot to get a head start on the season. They are grown until ready to transplant into the garden, after the soil heats up. Thin (remove) all but the 2 most vigorous plants and plant. This article should help: https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/planting-okra.htm
How will the use of horse manure and urea affect the height of the okra plants?
Don't expect significant plant stretching from urea, especially if it's composted manure which is what you should be using. Ammoniacal forms of nitrogen are known to stretch some plants.