How can I get rid of small black bugs on my okra plants?
Unfortunately, your photo did not come through. I am unable to confirm if they are aphids or not. In the meantime, these articles will help:
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/plant-problems/pests/insects/homemade-aphid-control.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/planting-okra.htm
For the last 2 years I have Fusarium Wilt in my Okra. It kill off the whole okra crop.
We don't sell or recommend retailers, but I would suggest you speak with your local garden center about ordering some seed that is certified to be disease-free. You can also search online for retailers that sell certified seeds. Here are some tips on saving okra seed.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/how-to-save-okra-seeds.htm
I know okra thrives in hot dry climates but will it do well in a self watering container kept continuously damp watering from below?
Containers need to be 10 inches or larger. As long as the soil is well-drained and not saturated, okra should do fine. Here is more:
http://sonomamg.ucanr.edu/The_Kitchen_Garden/Feature_Vegetables/Okra/
Why. Is my tallest okra dripping water when the sun hits the leaves? It is almost like a steady rain.
They do this when they are happy! Unless you see this with other symptoms, then it is no real worry.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/houseplants/hpgen/guttation-in-plants.htm
Lots of these egg looking things on back of my okra plants also have a lot of ant on my plants. Any help would be great.
I see aphids but it looks like scale are there, too. They produce a honeydew that attracts the ants. Try Neem oil to get rid of them. You can try spraying them with a hose, but I find they just hang on. Here is more:
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/broccoli/common-broccoli-problems.htm
Okra leaf wilting, gray in color then turning brown not yellow. One at a time.
It could be one of these diseases:
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/treating-okra-fusarium-wilt.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/cotton-root-rot-okra-control.htm
Leave are frozen & hanging, temp was below 32 degrees, wind chill 24 degrees.
Yes, the seeds should be fine. Cold weather shouldn't harm them. If they are mature, go ahead and harvest them and let them dry. If not, leave them on the plants till they mature.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/how-to-save-okra-seeds.htm
https://extension.umn.edu/planting-and-growing-guides/saving-vegetable-seeds#harvesting-823210