How can I get rid of small black bugs on my okra plants?
Unfortunately, your photo did not come through. I am unable to confirm if they are aphids or not. In the meantime, these articles will help:
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/plant-problems/pests/insects/homemade-aphid-control.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/planting-okra.htm
For the last 2 years I have Fusarium Wilt in my Okra. It kill off the whole okra crop.
We don't sell or recommend retailers, but I would suggest you speak with your local garden center about ordering some seed that is certified to be disease-free. You can also search online for retailers that sell certified seeds. Here are some tips on saving okra seed.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/how-to-save-okra-seeds.htm
I know okra thrives in hot dry climates but will it do well in a self watering container kept continuously damp watering from below?
Containers need to be 10 inches or larger. As long as the soil is well-drained and not saturated, okra should do fine. Here is more:
http://sonomamg.ucanr.edu/The_Kitchen_Garden/Feature_Vegetables/Okra/
Why. Is my tallest okra dripping water when the sun hits the leaves? It is almost like a steady rain.
They do this when they are happy! Unless you see this with other symptoms, then it is no real worry.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/houseplants/hpgen/guttation-in-plants.htm
Lots of these egg looking things on back of my okra plants also have a lot of ant on my plants. Any help would be great.
I see aphids but it looks like scale are there, too. They produce a honeydew that attracts the ants. Try Neem oil to get rid of them. You can try spraying them with a hose, but I find they just hang on. Here is more:
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/broccoli/common-broccoli-problems.htm
Okra leaf wilting, gray in color then turning brown not yellow. One at a time.
It could be one of these diseases:
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/treating-okra-fusarium-wilt.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/okra/cotton-root-rot-okra-control.htm