Q.This is the second year we have tried to garden and have very poor success. The seeds don’t germinate well and plants are puny a
nd spinley. We ise oak leaves and bags of soil. Whats wrong

I would start with a soil test; this will give you information on possible amendments that your soil needs.
Your County Extension Office can help you with this and it generally only cost a few dollars.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/extension-search
Then I would make a list of plants you would like to grow and then start a bit of research on these plants and what their needs are.
Try to start with a few vegetable plants; don't overwhelm yourself with too many varieties all at once!
Consider gardening with raised beds! A great way to control your soil and nutrients!
Even container gardening is a great way to get started!
I'm listing some articles to help you get started!
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/garden-how-to/soil-fertilizers/testing-soil.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/vgen/vegetable-gardening-for-beginners.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/category/edible/vegetables/vgen
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/vgen/raised-vegetable-gardens.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/vgen/quick-guide-to-container-vegetable-gardening.htm
Good luck!