Can you cut back/prune butternut squash plants?
This article will help you.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/squash/should-you-remove-squash-leaves.htm
What time of the year to I trim a Japanese willow ?
The heavy annual pruning is done is early spring. Take about 1/3 of the oldest branches to the ground. This spurs new growth which is more colorful than older growth. Since it is a vigorous grower, you may need to trim the bush in June and again about now to keep it from getting too tall. Notice the difference between trimming and pruning. Vigorous growing shrubs need both.
I have a damson tree that produces loads of fruit but is in desperate need of pruning, when is the best time to do this and how much should I take off? It is too tall to be able pick the fruit from the top now even with a ladder so would like to make it spread side ways rather than continue going up.
These links will help you.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/fruits/plum/growing-damson-plum-trees.htm
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/fruits/plum/plum-tree-pruning.htm
Why, when I cut off a dead leaf does the plant seem to react badly by other leaves dying?
This really depends on the type plant it is. Some plants, such as bananas, don't like their leaves being plucked. Others benefit from it. Alternatively, the plant could be suffering from a pest, whether it be an insect, or a fungal/bacterial problem.
How do we trim plants that have been damaged by frost?
In most cases, it's best to avoid pruning frost-damaged plants during the winter, because the cut areas could allow more frost damage to happen. Wait until after the last chance of frost in the spring, then evaluate which parts of each plant are dead and prune off the dead areas.
This article will help you with pruning in the spring:
http://osceola.ifas.ufl.edu/mg/mg_faq_12.shtml#Freeze.18
Here is more about protecting plants from future freeze damage:
http://www.extension.umn.edu/garden/yard-garden/trees-shrubs/protecting-from-winter-damage/
Two trees in my new yard have been severely pruned leaving only 1/3 of tree left. What can I do to prevent the trees from dieing?
This depends on the tree, and your zone. Some trees are meant to be pruned very aggressively, while others cannot be done that way. Can you provide pictures and more information about the tree, and the area?
when should I prune my lilac with loosing next years flower buds
Spring bloomers like lilac should be pruned after they bloom and no later than July 4th.