I am a novice at gardening, so this Spring I was determined to plant some flowers/herbs for the first time. That being said, I have a "Pinks" Dianthus plant in an appropriate size pot on my front step. We get full sun there. We have noticed that the flowers are coming off. There are many buds and the plant/stems themselves look healthy. I have read that spider mites could be to blame? Is it possible that squirrels could be eating the flowers off of the stem? Thank you!!
Yes, squirrels, mice or rabbits could be an issue.
It's doubtful that spider mites would cause flowers to drop.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/ornamental/flowers/dianthus/growing-dianthus-plants.htm
How do I keep perennial dianthus planted on a banking thriving?
This article will refresh you on the care requirements.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/ornamental/flowers/dianthus/growing-dianthus-plants.htm
Where do you dead head the flowers?
Cut the stem all the way back to the foliage if it is just one spent flower on the stem. Sometimes though you'll get a spent flower on a stem that has a new bud forming right next to it. In this case, just cut the spent flower off and let the new bud flower
Why do the buds dry up just as they commence flowering
This could be a sign of nutrient deficiency or improper watering. Try fertilizing it with a general fertilizer like miracle grow or Osmocote slow release fertilizer for flowering plants. Also the plant may need extra water during bloom periods, but when you water do not do it from above, try to water right at the root zone without getting the flowers and foliage excessively wet. Dianthus flowers can be short lived but deadheading most varieties will help them reblooming. This article should help
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/ornamental/flowers/dianthus/growing-dianthus-plants.htm
The foundation shrubs can be seen in attached photo. Would like to use Dianthus as a border with walkway. We have deer. I want a border with little maintenance, that will last 10 years or more - Is Dianthus a good choice?
Though Dianthus is a pretty perennial, I would not consider it low maintenance.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/ornamental/flowers/dianthus/growing-dianthus-plants.htm
I would suggest a flowering shrub, suitable to your growing zone.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/planting-zones/
Visit local garden centers and greenhouses for some ideas.
How much do I cut off of the old plant in the spring before new growth appears- leave it alone, or cut all the dead looking stuff off?
Cut the old growth back to about 1 to 2 inches in height.
If you did not do this in the fall, you can cut it back now.
https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/ornamental/flowers/dianthus/growing-dianthus-plants.htm
Do Dianthus need trimming before spring green up?
It isn't completely necessary, but it does help the plant significantly. This article will give you more information: https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/ornamental/flowers/dianthus/growing-dianthus-plants.htm